Trophy Wife Dreams & Divine Detours: Thank GOD I Didn’t Get What I Asked For
Sis, can we talk about the cringeworthy things we used to want as teenagers?
I'm gonna be real with y'all. Back in my high school days, I was all about that "trophy wife" life. Yep, you read that right. Blame it on those reality TV shows with the expensive cars, designer bags, and glamorous lifestyles. I was convinced that marrying a football player (my high school sweetheart) was my ticket to that *soft life*.
Looking back, I can't help but shake my head and laugh (and maybe cringe more than a little). But hey, we all have those moments, right? Those times when we look back and wonder, "What was I thinking?!"
Rebellion and Reality TV
It wasn't just the trophy wife aspirations. I was a bit of a rebel too. Good grades on the surface, but behind the scenes? Let's just say I was pushing the boundaries and testing my parents' patience.
Yall remember "College Hill" and "Jersey Shore"? and let's not forget the endless stream of reality TV about the wives of rappers and athletes. I was eating it ALL UP, and it definitely influenced my teenage worldview.
A Divine Detour
But here's the thing: somewhere along the way, life took an unexpected turn. I like to think of it as a divine detour. You know, those moments when God gently nudges you in a different direction, even when you're convinced you know what you want.
It's funny how people say God chases after us. I don't see it that way. I believe He's always there, patiently waiting for those moments when we're open to His guidance. He's not chasing; He's simply waiting for us to turn towards Him.
Parenting and Perspective
My relationship with God as a Father has shaped the way I parent my own kids. I want to give them the space to explore their options, even if those options aren't what I would choose for them. It's about trust, autonomy, and allowing them to make their own decisions (within reason, of course!).
From Trophy Wife to Soft Life Mama
And as for that "trophy wife" dream? Well, let's just say God had other plans. I'm now navigating my "soft life era" and my "mama on the move era," and it's been an incredible journey. I literally love my life SO MUCH.
It's amazing how we go through these different phases in life, each one shaping us and leading us to where we're meant to be. Even when we don’t understand how we got from point A to point B LOL
What About You?
What about you, sis? What cringeworthy things did you believe as a teenager? And how would you describe the era you're living in right now? Share your thoughts in the comments below! Let's laugh, reflect, and celebrate the journey together. ❤️
I went through a phase in my later teenage years where I was so bitter with everything and everyone and my behaviour was CRINGEWORTHY because of these emotions. The way I treated people but more so the way I treated myself was so far from what God would ever want for my life.
I’m so glad I serve a God of grace, he welcomed me with open arms and renewed my heart and spirit. He allowed me to experience true love in the form of my husband and children and I wake up everyday ready to praise him in advance because I truly would have never made it out alive if it wasn’t for Jesus.
This era I’m in is called HEALED 🩷
As a teenager, I honestly thought that I'd be married before 25 and a mother of at least two by 30. Instead, my mom had the wisdom to push me to get my education first. I am so glad that I did just that and that I didn't marry/procreate with my earlier relationships. While there were some tough lessons learned along the way, I also experienced life in a way that would have been impossible if I had a husband + family to tend to. As Bevy Smith so wisely says: It gets greater later!